SEX AFTER A CHILDBIRTH

Every intelligent man won’t expect you to come out of the maternity hospital looking fresh like you weren’t pregnant at all and that you will have your libido like the two of you were dating for a few months... It doesn’t work like that. We all know that at the beginnings of the relationships we are all in and the longer you are in relationship the less interest and will you have. The most important is to find a balance and not to lose the interest. And it doesn’t matter what is balance for you. It can be having sex once a day or once a week.

I am glad that the comeback to our intimate games was natural and there were no issues. Even though I am not a huge fan of rumours, and I am not scared of hypothetical situations, I’ve heard and read a lot about sex after labour and not everything would be defined as an experience you would love to remember…

Thanks to that, I was prepared for the option that not everything may go according to plan, it will take a long time, it will be painful, or I won’t be in the mood. The most important thing in every relationship (not only with partners) is open communication. It can’t work the way that both sides would be pleased without it. The same way I shared everything with you here I talked about it with my partner. It may be a bit unromantic for some of you, but we openly discussed how do we think that our daily schedules will work, our intimate customs and how will we choose the places for our intimate sessions during which I love wearing lingerie and we involve erotic toys. To be honest, I’m not into sharing my concerns with someone because I take them as my personal weaknesses. But at the same time who should you be more open with than with your partner?

So, we didn’t only talk about where and when to find a time to enjoy ourselves but also what would we do if it doesn’t go well, there wouldn’t be right mood…. Therefore, I don’t believe that misunderstandings about sex occur only when there is lack of it but because the partners are not able to talk about their needs and preferences. You already know that we like to try everything new and yet not explored. Even though every sex toy which we try isn’t something worth review here (I write reviews only about products that were worth it). Thanks to this desire to try everything from the sexshop range I had already bought few toys to try to make up the absence of sex at least somehow. Even if we didn’t use them for the purpose, we bought them we tried them during this fall.

And let’s move to the ones I’d like to recommend you in this article.

If you have puerperium over but you still don’t feel ready for erotic games due to any reasons, don’t force yourself to try to overcome it or don’t just wait that it’s somehow going to get better. Be honest and tell your partner what bothers you. Why isn’t it working or why don’t you feel ready. I can’t forget to mention that the lack of interest in sex can occur not only for women but also for men. The worst is when you aren’t open with each other and you start overthinking.  

Loving partner will understand you, but I also think that there is a bit of ego centrism which makes us prefer our preferences and in this case orgasm…. That’s how it is. If you know that there is lack of intimacy in your bedroom, try to be at least a bit more proactive. There is a lot of different ways how to show affection to your partner and that not everything is about diapers, feeding and the baby’s sleeping schedule.

1) You can prepare massage for each other that can end with using your mouth or hands.  I recommend choosing the special oils for massages so they don’t get absorbed quicky. If you want to have romantic atmosphere the candles for massages are the best choice.

2)Great solution is also using masturbators which I already posted about. You can give them to your partner or engage them to your erotic games. There is a reason why we say that masturbators are ready whenever, it’s not out of order or they don’t have headaches… There are many different products available in different price ranges offering various penetrations  from oral, anal to classical sex… As I said, this luckily wasn’t our case but maybe we will have to deal with it after another baby. But we tried engaging mastubators (the ones which are on the photo) before I was pregnant.

Tenga Double Hole mastubator as the name already says provides option to please yourself by anal or vagina at the same time. I think that it’s worth trying even if you don’t have any issues after childbirth. It’s a great tip for a gift for your partner.

Fleshlight STU vagina is one of the mastubaters in the middle of the price range in comparation with other products that Tenga offers. You pay for more realistic stimulation of sex. I know that there is no woman who would love to hear that a plastic piece reminds their partners the feelings of having sex but the feedback I got was more than just positive. Obviously, this product can’t replace everything pleasing which is connected to the mood and atmosphere of having sex. If you just want to try something new but you know that the process of healing will take some time, this Fleshlight masturbator can be the solution.

Double sided transparent mastubator Clear Jack doesn’t have to be introduced lengthy. Wider side enables to feel like you are entering vagina and the narrow one enables to feel like you are entering anal. This can be great alternative for the ones of you which haven’t relaxed enough to try anal. We were happy everything and we can only recommend it.

You know that I may be way to realistic for some of you (it’s due to my experiences). The fact that you gave birth and have baby is beautiful, amazing, and unique but it’s only highlight of your days. Other people including your partner around you work normally, they have their daily duties, personal or work duties. And not only that. They have as well their desires and needs. If you want to avoid future issues and crisis, it’s important to talk about your concerns which can occur to be prepared. I hope that I helped at least someone with this article to work on your communication or how to solve the lack of intimacy.